Why not Love Them?

This evening a very profound thought was put into my head and I have been mulling it over in my head ever sense. I think I will approach the subject from a young persons point of view, and the spring board so to speak, will start with another subject that has been discussed in our Bible Study....the subject of partiality.
This is a very large problem in our churches and I know that it doesn't all start with us young people. So often our parents taught us, but that is not and never should be an excuse. We look at someone and size that person up in two seconds, and decide whether we will like them or not, and more often than not we are wrong, so wrong about that person. We put signs above their heads, announcing to ourselves and others around us that this person is this or he's that, without even giving them a chance to prove to us who they are. Or how about this one....we know them but they make a mistake, or a stupid decision, and what do we do? We tear them apart and hack them to pieces like a butcher does a pig. And what gets me is, even after they repent and attempt to move on we keep doing it. We keep beating away and hacking at them until they are no more then ground up hamburger. I don't understand it. What part of "forgive us our trespasses, AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESPASS AGAINST US"...do we not understand? Or this one; “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you." Doesn't that insinuate the fact that if we don't forgive others, GOD wont forgive us? That should scare us my friends. Forgiveness is a very important thing to GOD. I mean think about it, GOD sent Jesus to earth to die for us....your like; 'yeah...I learned that when I was 2'... but how's this; Jesus had a choice. In the garden GOD revealed to him exactly all he was going to suffer and all that that suffering entailed, and he was left with a choice. He didn't have to die for you and for me. He didn't have to go through with it. All that pain, misery and rejection, not to mention his separation from his Father, and then on top of that he got a free train ride to Hell. He had never committed a sin and here he was becoming sin itself and being punished for ALL (not just some) of the sins ever committed and the ones that hadn't/haven't been committed yet. He had a choice. He didn't have to do it, but he did, and he did it for you and me. That is why forgiveness is so important him. He made the ultimate sacrifice so that we could be forgiven. 
You know those people in our churches that we can't get along with, or that are "bad influences" on us?...we're gonna spend all eternity together. It doesn't make a bit of sense to all 'hate' each other now and then talk about how awesome heaven is going to be. Heaven is going to be made up of people, and many of those people are going to be those people we refuse to associate with. The ones we pre-tag, the ones we don't click with, or don't see eye to eye with. The ones who in our eyes don't dress right, talk right, act right or look right. We're gonna spend eternity with them. Why not love them now?

Where is Etiquette?

Sometimes I like to allow my mind to wonder into the past...two hundred years ago when women wore long dresses with annoying hoop skirts and men wore powdered wigs and ruffles at their throats. A time where women knew how to be beautiful ladies and the men were every ounce of a gentlemen. In fact they were trained to be like that. A guy reciting poetry was every bit as manly as a guy roping cattle, and the women? They were about being graceful, dignified, beautiful every bit of a lady as possible. But when I come back to the present day I am appalled at what I see. Guys often don't hold the door for a lady or give her their seat. They don't carry her groceries and treat her as though she were the queen of England. Every where you go the guys are crude and foul. Even in our churches.
I was quite spoiled growing up. I lived a 1/4 mile from some mighty fine gentlemen. Their dad drilled into their heads that they treat a woman with respect at all times, no matter what. And the mother set the example of grace and dignity for her daughters, and for every woman and girl she came in contact with. I still say that I hope someday to have half the grace that she does. Anyhow, when I look around I see ungentlemanly guys and unladylike girls.
What happened to chivalry, dignity, honor, grace, respect etc?
A guy no longer writes the girl he wants to court, he texts her. The girl no longer plays hard to get, she texts the guy incessantly, exposing all that she is before he even has a chance to court her.
Maybe I am old fashioned but I hope that when my turn comes to marry, I marry a gentleman, and I hope that I am a lady inside and out. I hope we send each other long letters via snail mail, and that he courts me until I fall in love with him. I don't want to wake up one morning to a message on my phone saying; "hey I jst want u to know i rly like u n i was wondering if u'd go out w/me." Ahhhhhh......I think that would give me nightmares.
No it is time for us to grab a hold of the beauty of dignity, honor and respect. It is time for us girls to be every bit of ladies we possibly can. This world is made up of woman trying to act like men and men openly disrespecting women.
We are not animals, we are created in the image of GOD, that alone should make us want to be as dignified and respectful as possible.
I am determined to learn what it means to be a lady through and through, I mean my name does mean princess.